How To Build Strong Relationships - 10 Tips

It is not a secret that any
relationships face hard times and
problems. It is better to be aware
of the basics that will help to start
building strong ties from the very
beginning to feel comfortable
with the partner.
1. Use relationships to teach you
how to be whole within
Relationships aren’t about having another
person complete you, but coming to the
relationship whole and sharing your life
interdependently. Learn to love the distances
in relationship as much as the togetherness.
2. See your partner for who he or
she really is
The romantic tragedy occurs when one partner
attributes to the other the qualities the latter
doesn’t possess. When you realize that more
often than not you don’t really know your
partner, you begin to discover who they are
and how they change and evolve.
3.Learn from each other
Be able to see the other as a mirror and learn
from the reflection how you can be a better
person. When you feel upset, don’t blame your
partner, remain awake to what has yet to be
healed in yourself.
4. Get comfortable being alone
In order to accept that love can’t rescue you
from being alone, learn to spend time being
with yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be
on your own within the framework of
relationship, you will feel more complete,
happy, and whole.
5. Look closely at why a fight
may begin
Some couples remain in a vicious circle by
fighting and then making up over and over
again. This allows you to continue the romantic
trance, creating drama and avoiding real
intimacy. If you become aware of what you fear
about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of
why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far
less.
6. Own who you are
Own who you are. We generally grasp at
romantic love because we’re yearning for
something that is out of reach, something in
another person that we don’t think we possess
in ourselves. But then we discover that we
didn’t get what we were looking for. True
love is about loving yourself first. You can
only get from another person what you’re
willing to give yourself.
7. Don’t be scared of ordinariness
After the fairy-dust start of a relationship
ends, we discover ordinariness, and we often
do everything we can to avoid it. The trick is
to see that ordinariness can become the real
“juice” of intimacy. Then everyday life with the
partner becomes extraordinary.
8. Expand your heart
We all want to be happy, which also includes
the desire to be close to someone. To create
real intimacy, discover the spaciousness of
your heart and bring awareness to what is
good within you. It’s easier to find the good in
your partner when you’re connected to the good
in yourself.
9. Focus on giving love
Genuine love is first about giving. The
unintentional outcome of loving others more
deeply is that we are loved more deeply.
10. Let go of expectations
You may look to things such as romance and
constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself.
This will immediately cause suffering. If you
unconsciously expect to receive love in certain
ways to avoid giving that love to yourself, you
will put your sense of security in someone
else. Refer to your own resources: offer love,
attention, and nurturance to yourself when you
need it. Then you can let love come to you
instead of putting expectations on what it
should be like.