See Top 4 Sweet Ways To Sweeten Your Relationship

We coast along in our relationship with our spouse,
our son, our mom — and then something breaks. In
an instant, we feel like we’re surrounded by glass.
Whether you’re mending from relationship
heartbreak or misunderstanding, or working on an
ounce of relationship problem prevention, here are
four ways to sweeten your relationships with loved
ones.
1. See it, say it
Want to pour some sugar on your relationships at
home? Seeing and saying things on the home-front
works like magic to make relationships feel more
secure — and it’s easy-peasy. All you have to do
when you see something great is say it.
When you see your husband take out the garbage,
say, “I appreciate you so much!” (And add a giant
hug and kiss!)
When you see your kids doing their homework
without being asked, say, “You rock for doing your
homework, my friend!”
When you see someone (even a stranger) do
something nice like holding the door open to let
someone go ahead of them, say, “Wow! That was a
super kind thing to do!”
Usually “see it, say it” works best if you say it
immediately, but sometimes a note after the fact is
more effective.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, if you see
something that concerns you, address it as soon
as you can. And, as always, pour on the love and
appreciation (even for being willing to hear you out)
after sharing your concerns.
2. Be a strength-finder
Everyone has things they’re good at. Sometimes,
looking at the very things that annoy us helps us
discover those strengths. Is your child always
getting lost at stores? Perhaps his strength is
curiosity! Does your loved one spend too much
money? Maybe your loved one’s gift is living in the
moment! We all want to feel loved for who we are
— even if we have a few areas that could be
polished up.
If you can’t think of a loved one’s strengths off the
top of your head, sit down and make a list. Post
the list so you can read it often. Observe your
loved one daily, and when you see a strength,
don’t forget to say it! (And round and round the love
goes!)
3. Pencil loved ones into your calendar
“The proof is in the pudding” or “put your money
where your mouth is” — we have these sayings to
convey that our actions speak louder than words.
Along with telling people you love them, write loved
ones into your schedule and make time for them.
With a spouse, set up an ongoing weekly date
night. With your kids, plan play time with them
daily. With dear friends and others to whom you
want to show love, set up a lunch date, go to a
movie or meet at the park so your kids can play.
Schedule important events so they’ll happen.
4. Get on your knees
I’m not talking about begging here (although a
dollop of humility is priceless in any relationship).
I’m talking about getting on your knees and praying
for your loved one. This is especially important
when your feelings are hurt. Maybe harsh words
were said to you. Pray to know what to say. Pray
for the person whose words hurt you. Maybe you
have a child who is making choices that cause you
heartache. Pray that you can have peace. Pray that
you will know what to do. Whatever the reason —
pray. Turn your worries, hurts and thoughts over to
God who has all day and night to help you to heal
your relationships.
While you’re sweetening your relationships with
others, don’t forget about pouring some goodness
onto yourself. Acknowledge your own successes,
accept compliments, give yourself a two-hour nap
and, when all else fails, pray that you can get
through the day.